Teaching boys not to rape? No fucking way.

Even if educational facilities endorse programs that try to ‘teach boys not to rape’, I’m not sure we would see much change in the current culture.  This runs far deeper than any kind of so-called contemporary feminist agenda or self-perpetuating ‘I’m offended’ brigade that like to set up camp within university walls.  This type of revolting behaviour is rife within schools, universities, homes and workplaces alike.  We have raised a generation without empathy and an unwavering knowledge that bad deeds go unpunished.  Luckily, in return, we have armed them with a truckload of self-entitlement and an overdose of disrespect for anyone who they don’t like, don’t agree with or who ‘offends’ their precious, sensitive hearts.  

Conversely, we have another group of people filling our university halls and lecture theatres.  It seems if they’re not hazing ‘freshers’ in some absurd ritual, commenting on sexist social media posts or simply joining in on the general narcissistic and dangerous hilarity of making someone’s life hell , we have the ‘I am Offended’ Brigade.  You can find these people mourning their complete lack of resilience because someone said something nasty to them and they got offended.

Somewhere along the lines, parents, teachers, authority figures and role models have lost track of what it means to raise a whole human being with ethical, real world resilience and values to match.  This, the culture of crimes that go unpunished and swept under carpets made of dollar signs, the culture of entitlement and being offended because the wind chose to blow in a way that you didn’t approve of that day, the culture of victimhood and martyrdom – this is why we end up with a culture that believes it is necessary to teach our boys not to rape and our girls to be victims…instead of teaching our kids to be good, decent human beings.

Reminder. Some of the adults aren’t even adults, and when they do grow up, we are left with children in adult’s bodies with no clue how to be in this world.  And it’s our fault.  

No independent sexual discrimination review is going to fix this.  No new parenting practice of teaching boys not to rape is going to repair this.  Nor is telling our girls that it is okay to walk in parks at night alone just because you shouldn’t have to worry about being attacked by a man.  Newsflash…it is common sense and logical to be aware of your surroundings when you walk alone at night, or take the dark route to the car park.  Women should do it and men certainly do it.  This is called being vigilant.  Just because we think we should be safe, doesn’t mean we are.  I’d like a lifetime supply of chocolate to come free with every child but guess what, it doesn’t.   It should though.

Teaching our boys not to rape assumes that every human with an XY make up has the potential for rape.  I’m sorry but what a load of hairy, rotten smegma covered dogs bollocks.  I do not need to teach my boys not to rape, and frankly, I find that offensive.  Saying that educating rape out of boys just shows exactly where the misunderstanding has begun.  The supporters of this nonsense show that they really have no idea how or what defines rape and the motivation behind it.

This is a worldwide phenomenon.  This is the world we live in now; where no one is allowed to have an opinion in case it offends someone, where you are labelled a MRA supporter if you say you are proud of being a traditional representation of your gender, where you can’t put someone in jail because they committed a crime and so they deserve a 20th chance to do something right, where feminism is a dirty word and masculinity is always toxic, where you can’t rely on anything except self-pity, narcissism and the fact that no one has any idea what they are doing anymore because they are too worried what everyone else will think.

Raise your child or your teenager, to be strong, independent, resilient, fair, moral, respectful and doing this as their parent, not as their friend …  teaching them to be proud of, and embrace, their gender, whatever they deem it to be, without making everything the other gender’s fault, and to be respectful and earn the right to be the best person they can be.

How about instead of teaching your boys not to rape, you teach your kids, sons, daughters and otherwise, to be decent human beings with well rounded morals and a strong sense of self respect and empathy for others.

That might go some way to fixing something.  

 

(Artwork by my fabulous non husband husband Tim)

4 thoughts on “Teaching boys not to rape? No fucking way.

  1. I think i understand the message in this post. It’s real and many people won’t ‘get it.’ This is the world we one in now, where PC and ‘not offending’ is a measure of quality. Where saying we should pay politicians more to attract better quality candidates gets you called so-and-so, and saying just because you ‘cut off your dick doesn’t make you a women’ as Germaine Greer did, causes speaker cancellations and ‘offence.’ Plurality means some opinions you won’t like. That’s okay. It’s a fair price to pay. I lived in China for 14 years. I love China. But fuck man. I’m listening to a band in Canberra now play a song called ‘I wish my Dad pulled out.’ That would get censored there. Speaking your mind is worth more than we know. Celebrate it. Great site.

    1. Thanks! And..I agree, Sacha. The minute we started censoring is the minute we cut off our verbal dicks, so to speak. Political correctness is doing just this. It’s okay to not like opinions, as long as we have them…with respect and integrity. It’s not okay to hold back absolutely everything, and in doing so, teach our younger generation that strength and resilience is a skill of the past.

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